When we are in a relationship, we often give up certain parts of us which seem to be threatening to the relationship. David loves motorcycles but Lisa is afraid of him having an accident. Lisa on the other hand loves dogs but David dislikes them. In order to be together, David has exiled his freedom loving part that wants to ride a bike, and Lisa has exiled her pet loving part that wants to get a dog. If there continues to be no room in their life for these parts, this can sabotage the relationship.

What constitutes happiness for you?
And where do your personal and professional relationships rank when it comes to happiness and success?
My co-facilitator and fellow coach Patrick Rhein and I would like to invite you to consider that creating a relationship is like preparing a great dish. There are certain basic ingredients that every relationship needs. On top of those components, there are other ingredients and spices you can add to make a relationship better and individualize it to taste and requirements. We would like to share 5 key ingredients to create empowering and successful relationships.

We all have a nagging voice inside which puts us down and makes us feel not good enough: our Inner Critic. We can distinguish between different types of Inner Critics and based on the type develop a loving voice as an antidote. The answer to the harsh and shaming Inner Critic voice is an Inner Champion voice. The Champion supports us in being ourselves and in feeling good about ourselves. It lifts our self-esteem and self-confidence. It makes us feel loved and good enough. The Inner Champion is the ideal supportive parent. It helps us to see the positive truth about ourselves. It nurtures and cares for us, and provides guidance.

We all have an Inner Critic inside of us that nags, puts us down and makes us feel not good enough. A powerful antidote to the harsh and shaming Inner Critic voice is a loving parental voice inside, an Inner Champion. This meditation which is based on a meditation idea by Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss will help you to find and cultivate a loving and compassionate voice inside.

Do you feel stuck?
Helen got the opportunity to do a creative video project. She was excited. Yet, instead of starting to work on it, she cleaned up the entire house first. Then she started cooking a meal. Then she thought she should return some phone calls. She realized she was procrastinating. Does this sound familiar to you at all?
IFS (Internal Family Systems) is a way to work from Self (your spiritual core) to transform and unburden parts in order to shift and become unstuck.
If you want to find out more join my daughter and I as we chat about the IFS view of our Psyche and how to work with our parts to become unstuck.

While you can’t have relationships without disappointments, you cannot have a solid love relationship without trust. How does mistrust enter into our relationships, how do we decide whether to go or stay in the relationship and if we decide to stay, how do we rebuild the trust again?

This meditation was created by my friend Darryl Gurney. It has the purpose to experience yourself different from your physical form, different from what we are identified with. It gives you a taste of being more than a physical being, more than the different roles we all play. It is an opportunity to connect to unity and to being all one.

What determines whether we can create a safe and happy long-term relationship with our partner? How do our subconscious beliefs and missing relationship skills affect our partnerships?
Some conclusions about love and relationships we might have drawn as we were growing up are, “I will always be alone and no one will ever be there for me”, or “I will never be good enough”, or “I cannot have my needs met in any relationship”, or “Once, there is a conflict, that’s the beginning of the end, and I had better withdraw already to protect myself”.
Join me to find out more about limiting beliefs and lacking relationship skills which create challenges for us, especailly in our romantic unions.

What is going on when our children seem judgmental of some of the things we do? As parents, we act as mirrors to them, just as they are reflections for us. It is uncomfortable to be at the receiving end of their projections but we need to keep in mind that this is not about us, as much as it feels that way, but it is about what our children have learned to disown; and we may even have taught them to disown that particular trait or energy.
Disowned parts we haven’t integrated can also show up again in our adult relationships, for example when we find that our partner reminds us of our father or mother.

Loving our body does not just mean we give it the food and exercise it needs. I means we think and speak to it in a kind and loving manner. We appreciate it for it’s beauty and it’s service to us. Our body is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Every part of our being, every cell in our body responds to every thought we think and every word we speak.
Join me in this meditation to love and appreciate your body more.